This is a very raw post from me today- but kind of therapeutic too. For the past year, I have been living in fairly constant stress. My Grandfather had a joint replacement in April 2013, then developed a bed sore, then ultimately passed away in October 2013. Just before heading to New York for his funeral, my Mother (his daughter) developed an infection in her knee replacement. It has been an on-going saga involving about 5 hospitalizations, 3 surgeries, and countless sleepless nights watching and worrying, wondering if she will somehow be herself again after all this. She still has yet to fully bounce back.
I love my family dearly and wouldn’t change how much time I’ve devoted this last year to caring for the one’s who needed more love. But this year has taken its toll on me. I have developed insomnia, stomach issues, and a level of anxiety that I’m not sure how I leave my bed some mornings. BUT through this I have also learned how important happiness is, and life is too short to stay stuck in situations that don’t fulfill you.
I came across this article from Mind Body Green the other day and I can’t word more perfectly the lessons I have learned from this past year. These are the things in which you must remind yourself, every day, in order to get through what seems like the impossible.
- Don’t lose sight of what truly matters.
- It’s okay to be alone or pull back from the world.
- You are not always in control.
- What other people think is irrelevant.
- Don’t give up.
- You don’t have to know all the answers.
- You are enough.
- Stay present.
- Your feelings will not kill you.
- You are human.
This article/list brought me a lot of calm, and I hope it can bring others the same feeling of comfort. ALWAYS hang in there, and ALWAYS go after what makes you joyful. As a plaque in my Aunt and late Uncle’s home said: “The time to be happy in now”.
I personally want to thank those who have helped me through this year. Your love and patience has guided me to where I am today, and it continues to help me heal.
To see more of what the author of this article (Madison Sonnier) has written, please visit her blog here.